Is someone your friend when they are only your friend on their terms? As I work through my own personal growth with an executive coach, I learned that I am the ultimate accomodator and what that means is that I try to please at all costs and more importantly I try to keep the peace. Thus, instead of speaking my mind or challenging things I know are not right, I just let things ride. My thought process is that there is no reason to not accomodate when it does not take anything away from me. But it does take something away from me sometimes, and I need to own that. I need to own that what it takes is sometimes not worth the price I have to pay.
A true friend does not let your disagreements define your friendship and they take your apologies and thank you's seriously. They respect you and those you love. Being a friend is hard work. IT takes sacrifice, having a thick skin and the will to take the time, not just when things are good but when things are no so good. It means intervention when someone is driving towards the edge a cliff. And rederecting that anger and fear even if that anger and fear get directed at you instead.
In life we are lucky if we have one true friend. And that true friend should be treasured, valued and given much love. And they should be told that they are valued even when you barely have the strength!
